What if I don’t know how?
Try these exact words:
“Can you show me?”
“Can you show me?”
The Big Sister Academy
Season One · Things nobody taught you
Life didn’t come with instructions.
Pick what you need today.
This is a library, not a test. Pick what feels useful, skip what doesn’t, and come back whenever you’re ready. Nothing here keeps score.
Find your footing in real life
- Pause when you need to
- Ask for help
- Repair a mistake without beating yourself up
Deal with people without losing yourself
- Say no clearly
- Leave gossip
- Know a real apology
Feel ready for your first job
- Prepare for day one
- Talk to a manager
- Get help with a work mistake
Body care, money & growing up
- Hygiene — zero shame
- Make an appointment
- Plan a paycheck
The hygiene stuff nobody likes to talk about.
We talk about it anyway — kindly, clearly, and with zero shame. Bodies are bodies. Questions are normal. You deserve real answers.
Gentle heads-up: This lesson talks plainly about body odor, periods, and body care. Read what helps. Skip any part you don’t want today. You can come back when you’re ready.
Showering without making it a whole thing
A simple routine, what to wash, and what “often enough” can look like.
Who to ask: a trusted adult, caregiver, school nurse, or healthcare provider.
Body odor & deodorant
Why odor happens, how deodorant works, and what to try when it is not enough.
Who to ask: a trusted adult, school nurse, pharmacist, or healthcare provider.
Periods, products & leaks
Pads, tampons, changing them, carrying backups, and handling a leak without shame.
Who to ask: a trusted adult, school nurse, pharmacist, or healthcare provider.
Teeth, hair & clean clothes
Tiny routines that help you feel comfortable — with realistic options for busy days.
Who to ask: a trusted adult, dentist, hairstylist, or healthcare provider.
When something feels off
Itching, pain, strong changes, or worries are reasons to ask — never reasons to feel embarrassed.
Who to ask: a trusted adult, school nurse, clinic, or healthcare provider.
Exact words
Ask for one specific thing.
“Could you help me understand how to fill this out?”
People are more able to help when they know exactly what you need. You don’t have to explain your whole life — just name the next step.
Who to ask: a trusted adult, teacher, caseworker, or staff member who listens to you.
Every lesson has your back.
Read it on your phone or use it with a safe adult. Content notes come first, practice is always optional, and there is never a score.
Gentle heads-up
If a topic could sting, we tell you before it starts. It’s okay to skip it.
Hidden rule
The thing people expect, but rarely explain — with no shame for not knowing.
Exact words
A sentence you can borrow when you’re not sure what to say.
Try it — or don’t
A tiny practice when you’re ready. Passing is always an option.
Who to ask
Every lesson ends with a real person who can help with the next step.
You were never supposed to know everything automatically.
Someone was supposed to show you. If they didn’t, that is not something to feel ashamed of. Learn one thing when you’re ready, ask again when you need to, and leave the rest for another day. I got you.
Bring it to your program.
A flexible life-skills resource for youth programs, group homes, schools, foster-care partners, and caring adults — built so every young person keeps control of her pace, privacy, and participation.
Browse or skip in any order
No scores, streaks, or tracking
Use choice-first group prompts
Print one gentle, practical lesson